career, children, lifestyle, motherhood, parental leave, parenting, relationships, skills

Dear employer

About 5 months after giving birth the second time, I was obsessed with the idea that I should write my resume and be prepared in case I find some job that I want to apply to. And one of the things I wrote in my resume is that “I’m a mother of two”. For me, it was important that my possible future employer would see that as a strength. I thought to myself: “If they don’t understand that being a mother is part of who I am now, then I just don’t want to work for them. And they should be lucky to have me. “

Now, after I’ve come to understand that applying to jobs was something I thought I have to do, not something I want to do, I don’t want to apply to jobs anymore.

But my point is this: I don’t think I was wrong believing being a mom is a skill. Mothers don’t see themselves as victims, and being a mother can actually be a strength, not a weakness.

I remember meeting a mom with twins once. She had two of those baby-carriers and she was wearing them – one in the front, one in the back. She was smiling a lot and it didn’t seem to bother her that she  literally had two living humans attached to her. And then, when she casually said to me “this is how we make lunch” all I could think to myself was “Boy, she must be awesome at her job!”

So there you have it, my “hire the mom” letter of intent.


Dear employer,

Hire the mom! I urge you to hire the mom!

Don’t dismiss her because she took a “leave” to raise a human. Try to think of it this way – she took that leave to improve her skills. And because of that leave, chances are she is now better organized. She knows better how to handle the pressure. She can multitask like no other (even more so, if she has more than one child).

She is more creative. She is used to paying attention to everything that’s happening around her. She is a problem fixer (it’s one of her many, many jobs as a mother). She has more patience with people. She is more balanced as a person. She knows more about herself and what she is capable of.

She accepts mistakes. She sees the differences in people. She is good at motivating these people. She possesses emotional intelligence.

Yes, she might not be as open as others with the long hours, and yes, she might ask for a more flexible schedule, but she can be far more efficient at her job, probably more than most people just as qualified. Besides, she is used to getting very little sleep so she doesn’t get tired so easily.

So if a person was capable of raising a child and keeping that child alive and healthy, I think the same person is more than fit to handle the job.

However, if the set of skills is not convincing enough, try to look at it this way – she’s already had a child, or two; so there are very slim chances of her having another, any time soon. And it’s obvious she’s looking for something steady so in fact, you’ll be saving yourself money, time and effort.

Just think about it.


Raluca, mother of two 🙂